Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One

When I lost someone dear to me years ago, I felt my world had ended. It was the hardest thing I was faced with up to that point in my life. Unless you’ve lost someone close to you, you cannot begin to imagine what I was going through.

Some friends who’ve been through it before told me, ‘You’ll never get over’, others said,  ‘It will take a long, long time’. The night after the funeral, I sat in my kitchen and read the Condolences Book and cried, and cried, and cried, praying also, the best way I knew, even though I was at a loss for words. I asked God for help in coping with that feeling of depression and grief – the loss was unbearable. I continued to ask God for the peace that Jesus provides, for this peace to be manifested.

Months later, while in union with God, I experienced something miraculous…a sense of calm and peace within my soul. I’d never felt that before, but I knew such a feeling could only come from God’s amazing presence.

From that day onwards, my life was renewed. I had a new perspective on life and loss. I’m not saying I didn’t cry or miss my dad terribly, but I am now able to remember and enjoy the moments we shared, the beautiful memories, with the Peace of GOD in my heart.

To anyone who has lost a loved one, I pray that the Father, Son and Holy Spirit will shower you with the Peace that passes all understanding.

Philippians 4:6-7 – Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

In the loving memory of Selwyn Ragoonanan

(April 8, 1937 – September 26, 2009)

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